Do Most Couples’ Fights Really Amount to Nothing?

Are you married or involved in a long-term relationship? If so, what would you say to a therapist who suggests that most of the fights you have with your partner are really about nothing at all? Such a statement would be hard for many people to wrap their brains around. After all, fights generally start off revolving around a single topic – even if they do not stay on topic throughout. It turns out that the idea may be correct, depending on how you define your terms. According to well-known relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, "the number one thing that couples fight about is exactly that: nothing." You can hear the good doctor's remarks in a YouTube video available on the Gottman Institute website. 'Nothing' Doesn't Mean 'No Topic' Gottman's assertion that couples fight about nothin

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